When you decide to seal the deal and say “yes” to the relationship, you don’t always know what you are getting into. People portray themselves to be a certain way so you can accept them into your life without any questions asked. In other cases, they have always been their selves, yet you couldn’t see the signs.
Before you get into a romantic relationship with your significant other, find out more about them and their habits. Finding out later in the relationship about their bad behavior will only make it harder to leave.
These tips do not automatically qualify someone as being a bad choice for a romantic partner, they just simply can be used as a guide for choosing one that is not bad news.
1st Red Flag: MANIPULATION
When a partner tries to influence your decisions, actions or emotions. Manipulation is not always spotted with the naked eye, but if you pay close attention, you can be able to identify it.
Some examples are your partner convincing you to do something you wouldn’t normally feel comfortable with, your partner ignoring you to get a certain reaction from you to use it in their favour and apologies to influence your decisions.
2nd Red Flag: JEALOUSY
We all experience jealousy here and there, but it becomes unhealthy when someone lashes out or tries to control you because of it. This negative emotion does not stem from love, but instead, it develops from a sense of both insecurity and desire to see your partner as an object to be possessed.
An example is your partner getting upset when you text or hang out with people he or she feels threatened by.
3rd Red Flag: ISOLATION
Wanting to spend some quality alone time with your significant other is completely normal, however forbidding them from having contact with their friends, family or other people can become a problem. Isolation not only makes it harder for you to leave a relationship, but it can also lead to feelings of loneliness, fear of others, or a negative self-esteem.
An example can be when your partner makes you choose between them and your friends.
4th Red Flag: BELLITLING
Belittling means to be dismissive of the importance of a person or a thing. When your partner continuously belittles you or others then it is understandable for you to raise an eyebrow. It is a form of verbal abuse that can have serious implications on a person’s mental health.
Examples of belittling are your partner making rude remarks about who you hang out with, your family or what you look like and making fun of you (even if it is played of as a joke).
5th Red Flag: GUILT TRIPS
Guilt tripping means making someone feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something. It is wrong for your partner to make you feel guilty or responsible for his or her actions. Guilt tripping is common in an unhealthy relationship, because it is a clear form of psychological manipulation and coercion.
Examples of guilt tripping are your partner making you feel responsible for their happiness and making you feel everything is your fault.
With these tips, take the dating scene by storm and keep your eyes open for even more Red Flags.
Remember, if your gut is telling you something is off about someone then you should probably listen to it.